The Spyder3 Pro/Elite software works differently. The settings you choose are then of course saved in the TV itself. You then manually adjust the TV's controls (brightness, contrast, colour, etc) to dial the settings in to give you the most accurate picture possible. These measurements let you know how accurate your display is. As you do this, you take measurements with the meter on your PC.

Using a separate DVD player, you then play the supplied test pattern DVD through the TV. The meter itself is then placed onto the TV which you wish to calibrate (NOT the monitor/TV which you are using for the PC). You install the calibration software onto a PC or laptop and also connect the meter to the same PC/laptop via USB. With the Spyder3 TV package you get a test pattern DVD, calibration software and a meter. It doesn't sound like you quite understand the calibration process.